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If you have a problem in you life (with money, a girlfriend, or with your grades in school), who do you talk to first: your mom, your dad, a brother or sister, or a friend? What are your reasons for talking with this person?
“be all ears” = very willing and interested in listening
“Listen. Tell me about the problem. I’m all ears.”
“fall on deaf ears” = having your ideas ignored by others
“I always share my feelings with my coworkers, but my ideas always fall on deaf ears.”
A. Listen to the recording and answer the questions.
Wife: It was terrible. The company is going to lay off about 50 people, and I might be one of them.
Wife: The problem is you never listen. Never! So look. I bought you this book. Here. Read it.
Wife: No, you DON'T know. The first thing is not to interrupt and think you know what I'm going to say. Hold your tongue for once and give me a chance to share my feelings before you come up with some witty response.
Wife: I hope. Number two. Show me that you're listening. Stop checking Facebook while I'm talking to you, turn off the TV, look me in the eyes. Anything to show me that you're paying attention.
Wife: It's not funny. It's not funny!! So QUIT LAUGHING!! And don't tell me what to do to fix my problems either. Most of the time, I don't need solutions. I just need you to listen to my feelings.
Husband: Okay. I guess I haven't listened enough, [ No. You don't listen very much. ] and I haven't shown much empathy [ No. ] And, well, how about if I read a couple of chapters and then we talk about it? Is that okay?
What are some reasons why people don’t seem to listen very well? Do (Did) you feel that your parents listen to your own concerns and problems? Why or why not?
Use the Internet to find out at least three points that help people develop their listening skills better. Discuss these ideas with a partner. Think about yourself and identify how many of these skills you do or don’t do well and what you plan to do (if anything) to improve your listening.